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Here's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
I have
been writing stories for as long as I can remember. Born and raised
in Rochester, New York, and its various suburbs, I had everyday,
working class parents. My dad worked for a local highway department
and my mother was a stay-at-home mom until my teen years when she
began working at a bank. Only as I got older did I focus on the
many journals my mother kept and my maternal grandfather's love
of crossword puzzles and realize this is probably where I got my
affection for words.
Of
course, it's a rare writer who thinks early on that she can actually
spend her life writing without getting a 'real job.' Being a novelist
never really crossed my mind - not seriously, anyway. So, I went
to college in Mansfield, Pennsylvania and earned myself a Bachelor's
Degree in Mass Communications (emphasis on Broadcasting with a minor
in Theater, if you want to get technical). Fresh out of school (and
not having written much aside from term papers in a very long time),
I was ready to conquer the world of television. I got a job at Rochester's
local public television station, where I worked my tail off for
a wage so miniscule I might as well have been working for free.
It didn't take me long to figure out that I didn't have the patience
to work my way up in that field - it would mean moving out of my
hometown and I wasn't ready to do that. I was the oldest of five
daughters, one of whom was only a toddler at the time, and I didn't
relish the idea of leaving my family. So, I left my job instead.
Long
story short (too late!), I began working in sales (which is totally
the wrong career for my personality, but that's another story all
together), met my lovely wife Bonnie - who would change my world
forever - and began writing again on the side. It started with little
bits here and there, a short story, an essay, a journal. Then I
got a computer, went online, and discovered the astonishingly enormous
world of fan fiction. I began to toy with it (and I discovered it
to be a great tool for a writer to improve her dialogue and descriptive
phrases). I met many other aspiring writers online and we used each
other as sources of assistance, brainstorming, proofreading, and
whatever else we needed to help one another improve our craft. It
was in this online world that I met my dear friend Tonya Muir, one
of the more talented writers to whom I'd had the pleasure of connecting.
We bounced ideas off one another, proofed each other's work, and
even began collaborating on a story together. We taught one another
that it was okay to write what we wanted to write (lesbian
stories) and not necessarily what would sell best (hetero stories).
Tonya also was acquainted with a woman who was starting up a publishing
company and I just happened to have the first draft of a manuscript
I'd been writing. After much persuading, she got me to send my manuscript
to her friend's new company. They accepted it right away and before
I knew it, I was a real, honest-to-goodness published novelist.
Bonnie and I have been together for fourteen years this June (which boggles both
our minds if we dwell on it too long). We had a union ceremony in
New Zealand during the Millennium, which is something not many people
we know can say. That was, without a doubt, the trip of a
lifetime. We have two dogs - Henry and Finley (see their photos
to the left) - and a slew of nieces and nephews who keep us on our
toes. After nearly 40 years of snow for me, we decided we were tired of spending almost six months a year brushing it off our cars and a change of scenery was in order. We now live in Durham, North Carolina (Go, Duke!), and love it, though homesickness does get the better of me now and then. I'm a northeastern girl at heart.
I've
discovered that writing is an ever-improving craft; that I will
continue to get better throughout my entire writing career and that's
okay. In addition to all the fiction I read, I've also started reading
about writing. You can never learn too much about that at which
you strive to be good. A couple writing books I highly recommend: On Writing by Stephen King; Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott, and both versions of The Pocket Muse by Monica Wood. They're funny and entertaining as well as informative. Chatting online with fellow authors has also
been an enormous help. Sometimes only another writer can sympathize
honestly with you when you're totally convinced that you just suck.
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